2ONLY 6 DAYS LEFT TO GO

Only 6 days left until we pick up the Winnebago and set off.

So far we have a rough plan of direction that we will be sending out in a newsletter over the next few days. So look out if we are coming into your area and come and say hi.

WORKSHOPS

We will also be looking for places to speak and hold the occasional workshop on the way. So if this is something you would like to gather a few people together for, we would love to share our experiment to date, as well as some of the research on life change, inspiration and relationships we write and speak about.

YOU’RE SO STUPID

Talking of speaking, Im sure you have heard that it rates higher on the fear scale than even death for a good proportion of people. That got me thinking today after Ollie asked if I wanted to do some Tai Chi with him.

I haven’t done much of this before and waving my arms around like a lunatic in the middle of a garden at lunch time made me feel incredibly self conscious.

I have spoken in front of thousands and run butt nekid through a crowd yet this simple and relatively private act, that only Ollie and the chickens could see had my mind racing for some strange reason today.

You look so stupid. What do you think you are doing? What’s this going to achieve? You have better things to do. What if the neighbours see. Your doing it wrong…….

The list was endless. As I stood their forcing myself to do the movements, I listened fascinated at the chatter inside my head. As the inner critic tried everything it could to get me to stop, and my rational brain tried everything it could to respond to the illogical fears with logical responses.

Eventually the logic won and I was able to relax into the moment, having a wonderful mid day cleansing experience. But it made me think. I have spent a good 20 years researching techniques and tools to overcome fears like this, and yet still out of the blue something can override even the most well trained will power.

 Fighting these thoughts is tiring, challenging and it’s so much easier to just give into them and NOT do whatever that thing is that makes you feel uncomfortable or embarrassed.

 I would LOVE to hear what techniques you use to step through the discomfort zone.

Of course underlying these fears that stop us stepping out of our comfort zones, is a belief that a part of us needs protecting. Almost like the reaction you would have if you took the plaster of a raw wound then someone tried to poke it.

 Finding out exactly what it is we are protecting can have ENORMOUS benefit to the quality of our life, since whatever it is, it’s almost always based on an irrational miss perception.

 But getting rid of these fears comes with another ready made fear all of its own! Suddenly we will have nothing holding us back and we’ll have to DO STUFF!! And that is inconvenient and scary too.

 So what’s really holding us back, our fears or our fear of losing our fears? Makes you think doesn’t it

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