Unique-largeSome of you have been asking some great questions so I thought I would answer a few on mass in this weeks blog.

MELISSA SAYS – Hi Bessie and Geoff I am wanting to let go of a lot of my material possessions but struggling to take the initial action. What is the best way to get rid of the ‘block’?
cheers Melissa

Giving stuff away is not for everyone. Remember we didn’t do it to be nice people. We did it to break out of our rut and shift the old energy that’d been stunting our personal growth for so many years. Sure it had an amazing and unpredicted knock on effect, but the giveaway was designed to shake us up, refocus us on what really mattered and let go of old thinking.

Of course you don’t need to give stuff away to do that. However if there is stuff you can’t let go of you might want to ask, ‘How am I letting this stuff define me’.

We all like convenience and status. The two things ‘stuff’ ‘appears’ to give us. But when we REALLY want change, a new life or more from ourselves before we die, that ‘stuff’ suddenly starts to look like a chain around the neck, lulling us into a false sense of comfort, distracting our attention and stunting our growth.

So in reality I couldn’t wait to get rid of most of my stuff. Anything that was hard to give up I simply addressed what role it had in my life. What insecurity it plugged and used that as a wonderful guide as to what parts of me needed the most work. Then I got on with doing the work. Or more specifically balancing my perceptions and learning to let go.

Sure it was scary as hell at times but that was the point .

How can you truly find out who you are and who you can be, if you’re life is spent looking for ‘things’ to help you forget!

JOHN SAYS – What you have done seems kind of insane to me. Do you think its been worth it and if so why?

To be honest for us to stay where we were and continuing to patch up our sense of emptiness with more ‘’stuff’, would have been true insanity.

Was it worth it – With all my heart YES YES YES. I cant begin to tell you the oppertunity for growth and new perspective i have been given.

What have we learnt. Well here are a few things im particularly grateful to have realised

  • This is not a trial run – Stop acting as if it is
  • Your alive today. Plenty of others who thought they would be yesterday are not! So don’t take tomorrow for granted.
  • In the end most of what we think and nothing that we collected matters in the slightest.
  • Nothing is ever as bad, scary or impossible as it seems at first, if we get off our ass and take a step into the unkonwn (which pretty quickly becomes ‘known’ and completely unscary)
  • Few, if any of us use anywhere near the ability we have waiting inside of us. So stop underestimating your ability to change
  • A better happier life is a state of mind, not luck or a bigger bank balance, and like anything simply takes practice
  • Behind every one of our worst fears is the key to our greatest victory & growth
  • People are much more like you than you think – No matter how odd they may look or sound
  • YOUR misery is generated by YOUR mind. Blaming others wont fix it
  • The only difference between those who can, have and do, and those who can’t, have not and don’t is belief! NOT, I might add ‘facts’ but simply BELIEFE  (misguided or otherwise) As Henry Ford said ‘whether you believe you can or believe you cant you’ll always be right.
  • Taking the focus off us and our problems, and onto helping others dissolves, almost miraculously, a multitude of those problems.
  • Letting go is the answer to pretty much everything – If you cant let go, then let go of your need to let go.
  • Perception (which is all we have) is really a bit of a cosmic joke. Misery comes from taking yours to seriously.

Realizing that within every single moments of disappointment, boredom, frustration, anger, hurt, misery, disillusionment, worry or fear there ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS lies not only a better perspective  but a deep key to my own personal growth, has probably helped the most.

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