February 1st, 2011
The good thing about traveling from town to town is it really exposes the bulls**t we tell ourselves about our life. When every day you up n leave another spot, with nothing other than what you walked in with, you quickly start to see exactly what ‘stories’ and ‘crutches’ you are dragging around with you.
It’s kind of shocking to watch the old thought patterns pop up again and again in each new town and to realise you can no longer blame them on your surroundings or the people in them coz they ain’t the same!.
One of the old bones I have had to deal with on this trip was my hatred for the concept of ‘positive thinking’ I always saw it as schlocky and the height of insincerity.
I used to think, who are you really kidding, putting on that new agey, fundamentalist Christian, Stepford Mum, Cheshire cat grin and being all perky when deep down you feel like crap!
I used to cringe at seminars when they would teach affirmations like ‘I am a powerful infinite happy being’ blah blah blah. I used to sit there thinking, Why don’t you get a reality check and a life!!
Well a ‘reality check’ is exactly what I got.
I became increasingly aware of the fact that there was no such thing as a ‘truthful’ or ‘real’ internal reality. There is just the one I or my subconscious have decided on that day, for better or worse!
There was no great truth to be found in why I felt a certain way. No one to blame and nothing to fix! My life. The way it was, and the way I saw it, had always been entirely of my constructing!
As we moved from place to place I realised I’d allowed myself to become a bunch of old thought patterns I dragged around from place to place until they became habits. Habits I labeled MY EMOTIONS, MY BEHAVIOUR, MY REACTIONS, MY THOUGHTS & ME!
So now with great relief I can say this journey has given me the chance to leave ‘me’ somewhere between here and the middle of nowhere.
Positive thinking probably won’t fix much but it is a doorway to positive feeling. The daily practice of connecting with the emotions inside us we DO want to feel.
We easily forget that inside all of us lies an incredible mental laboratory making the chemicals required to feel absolutely any way we like any time we want – Our ability to master this, and learn to connect to that place of peace inside some call a soul or core, entirely determines the quality of our life FULL STOP!
So like Henry Ford says………………………….
5 Comments on "Where Ever You Are, You're Always There!"
AWESOME Post Geoff, You have hit the nail on the head. What we think and say to ourselves is exactly that in the moment and it’s neither good or bad – it is what it is.
If we spent as much of our time loving life as we do thinking we need to fix it our lives would be filled with so much joy…
Love & Light
Jayc
Hey Geoff I really like this post. This is something my dear old Dad taught me many years ago…….You have to live with yourself no matter where you are – a change of scenery or friends isn’t going to make an ounce of difference because “YOU” are still there. It’s when we learn to live with ourselves that we become truly FREE!
And learning to like yourself makes it a whole lot easier to live with yourself. If you can’t live with yourself then how on earth do you expect others to do it!
Cheers
Jenny
January 2009 I made a life changing decision. On that day, my new year’s resolution was to take on anything new presented to me. This resulted in me experiencing facets of life I had never considered. From my first 20/20 cricket game with my eldest daughter to the Ferrython on Sydney Harbour and even lawn bowls (and I am not even that old). The amazing part is, I have not regretted a single decision of this modification of my lifestyle.
The small cost in courage to step outside one’s comfort zone is rewarded tenfold in the satisfaction it provides. Geoff, your statement “Positive thinking probably won’t fix much but it is a doorway to positive feeling” is very true. But I would like to add “positive LIVING is doorway to a positive LIFE”.
Hi, we met Besse and Bluebell today at Kingston while we were having coffee in Kingston, I don’t know what drew her to us but it was an enlightning experience, I wish you well with your journey and I wish that I had not wasted my life looking for all the things to make it right and never do anything about it. Don’t waste a minute. Regards Gai Jones
Loved this post. I always feel grateful that I learned this lesson – that you can’t run away from your problems if you take them with you in your head – really quickly, cheaply and thoroughly a few years ago. A friend and I had had enough of our respective life dramas for the day – we decided that we wanted to ‘run away’. Being realistic, we decided that ‘running away’ to Tidbinbilla, 40 k’s out of town from Canberra, would do, and would be the perfect break from it all.
I remember sitting on top of a huge rock I’d climbed, waiting to feel peace, and instead feeling exactly as shit as I had felt in town about all the dramas I was trying to run away from…
Ever since then I have taken care to remember that I can’t blame my location, town, house etc for all of my problems. Some people end up moving continents before they learn this one.
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